18 October, 2012

shade

I had this whole post worked out in my head earlier and then I started learning how to calculate the present value of bonds and the difference between trading and available for sale.  Post gone. 

The basic question remains, however.  Why are people shady?  Perhaps I should be kinder.  I meant why do people feel the need to ACT shady?  It's a concept I have never understood and it doesn't seem I will anytime soon.  In my world - the world in which only I and a few other rational, non-overly dramatic people reside - if you have something to say, or you are mulling a potentially unpleasant subject (related to another person), you find a palatable way to say it and do so.  Even if it may not be so easy, you tell the truth and avoid leaving people hanging.  In short, you keep the air clear and the lines open.  It's just an easier way to be.  

This is why when people avoid things, lie by omission, lie by lying, or simply disappear, it is confusing to me.  I just don't get it.  Does this approach work?  I mean, it must, or people wouldn't do it, right?  But how does it work and for how long?  It seems to me that letting things fester or remain unresolved only brings more pain and / or drama in the end, and thus is easily deemed to be not worth it, in the first place. 

This is not necessarily about me, or my experiences (of which there are many) with the shadiness that is so rampant out there, mind you.  It's unbelievably omnipresent, this activity; I see it happening all around me everyday.  It befuddles me when my friends and loved ones detail encounters (or lack thereof) with shady behavior where it is just not necessary, in the workplace, in relationships, with friends and in personal business transactions. 

Take a lesson people: hiding from things, disappearing and being otherwise shady and unforthcoming makes you weak and lame and a complete pussy.  Don't be a weak, lame, pussy. Deal with your shit, friends.

And now that I've said that, I don't really know what can follow, so....post over.